One important life lesson that I have learned is to ask myself, “Is it true?”
Everybody has something different going on in there lives. My perception of what is happening is more than likely NOT true.
I have learned that most of the time my mind has me convinced that I’m so important that everybody around me is behaving a certain way because of me! For me. To me. At me. Meanwhile I also believe I’m one of the most unselfish people in the world. HA! Its amazing how I can believe two opposite concepts at the same time!
A lot of “spiritual gurus” will support this by saying the Universe is purposely triggering me so that I can learn from the situation. I’m sure that there are some of you reading this that totally fall into that category. Remember, this blog is a documentation of my journey. I can pretty much guarantee that one day I will write a post telling you about a situation that God provides a trigger in order for me to learn something! 🙂
Now imagine… So many of us are walking around believing that our boss, coworker, kids, spouse, parent, brother, sister, partner, best friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, the other person in line at the grocery, whoever just did whatever it was, just to piss you off!
Well, no wonder we are all in the pursuit of happiness!
The question is, “Is it true?”
I’m willing to bet that 99.9% of the time the answer is NO! Its not true. Its just our perception of the truth.
For the longest time, I was so afraid to have a real conversation with someone that it was just easier to be angry or sad than get to the nitty gritty of the situation. I became soooo good at making up the story of how horrible that other person was to me. Now God has blessed me with a partner. This man amazes me on a regular basis. Sometimes I am shocked how easy it is to tell him how I feel. Don’t get me wrong, I still get pissed off first at whatever he has done “to me”. Then I remember, I can talk to him. And rather quickly we uncover the truth. Its always a misunderstanding because I forget that its NOT ALL ABOUT ME.
There are many times that it is just way too difficult or even impossible to have a conversation with that person who “ruined your day” or seems “out to get you”. First calm down. Remember this life lesson, ask yourself “is it true?” If yes, then how do you know? Did they look at you and tell you so? Make sure that its not just your perception of the fact. You never know what happened in their life 10 seconds, 10 hours, 10 days, 10 years ago.
I have been lucky enough to have met some wise women in my life who have helped me so much with asking the simple question “Is it true?” And a very good friend introduced me to the work of Byron Katie. Check her out. Click the link. Its AMAZING stuff!
Everyone in this world is walking around with a story. One very important life lesson is, recognize that most of us don’t know the truth. I am learning that when I am in conflict with anyone else, or myself, stop and ask myself “Is it true?”